Is Your Life Boring?

Mine is. I pretty much do the same things every week: go to work, come home, hang with the family, walk on the treadmill, and get on the computer. I don’t go out much–oh, I could if I wanted to; my husband does fairly regularly. But that’s my writing time, and I don’t drink much. The older I get, the less I can drink without it making me feel really bad. And it’s just not worth it to lose time for doing other things to feeling bad when I can avoid it.

Dog Shaming is one of the more exciting things that happens around here - and I'm OK with that!

Dog Shaming is one of the more exciting things that happens around here – and I’m OK with that!

I do things like laundry and once in a while, even clean. But we don’t go on glamorous vacations (can’t, with a kid about to go to college), and I’m not much of a shopper.

And you know what? That’s not a bad thing.

Twenty-pus years ago, when I was single, I might have thought differently. Of course, we didn’t have Internet back then, so if you wanted to be social, it required getting out of the house. Sometimes, finding someplace interesting to go, where there were people I actually wanted to hang out with, was a challenge. But I managed, met my husband, got married, became a mom, and by then I didn’t have time to get out just for the sake of getting out. I was too busy to be bored.

My daughter has friends, a boyfriend, after-school activities, so she’s often not home. My husband likes to go out for a beer with friends or to play darts or watch sports. At home, it’s me and computer.

And that’s not a bad thing.

Twenty years ago, had I been able to look forward to see, I might have worried.

But then think of the other “excitement” people at my stage of life have. My brother had a heart attack on Christmas night. He’s fine now, but that’s the kind of excitement no one wants. I know people getting divorces, or contemplating it. My DH and I hang out enough, and we stay out of each others’ way enough, and we don’t have that kind of drama. We have other friends with grown children, who are constantly into some kind of ugly disagreement with them. Our daughter is 17 and still doesn’t mind hanging with us, so I take that as a good sign we’ll avoid that kind of drama too (one can hope!). So far she’s made good choices.

So I’m okay with being boring! Of course, there’s another side of the coin. We can get complacent, get stuck in a rut, stop trying new things. Life in general becomes a comfort zone, and you know how that works. Staying in our comfort zone for too long means we stop learning, stop growing, and stop developing our skills. We stagnate. I do feel that from time to time, but am unsure what to shake up. Years ago, that feeling of complacency might mean it’s time to look for a new job. But who wants to do that in these uncertain economic times, when I have a good job, working with good people, doing work I like, for decent pay?

For some people, “shake something up” might mean it’s finally time to kick the deadbeat boyfriend to the curb, or the tell the slacker (grown!) kids it’s time to move out. My family’s great – no messing with that!

Some people move. This can be great if you’re single and ready to make a change on the job front, or if you have the kind of job you can do anywhere. But for me, see family and job, above. Not going to mess with that, although maybe in a few years!

Last fall, I shook things up in my writing by writing in a genre I thought I never would (YA), and with no speculative elements. I had fun, and I did stretch myself, even if it’s not something I’ll publish (still haven’t decided on that).

What about you – is your life boring? If so, is it in a good way or not so good? What do you do when you sense you’re in a rut? I’d love to hear from you!

Jennette Marie Powell writes stories about ordinary people in ordinary places, who do extraordinary things and learn that those ordinary places are anything but. In her Saturn Society novels, unwilling time travelers do what they must to make things right... and change more than they expect. You can find her books at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Smashwords, Kobo, iTunes, and more.

 

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  1. I saw the title to your blog and answered, “YES!”

    You know, I may have a boring life, but I’m not bored. And that’s what matters, right? When I worked and kept busy and then found quiet time, I was bored. I had nothing to do, so I watched TV. Not so anymore. I have writing to thank for that (and reading, because I do read more now than I ever have!). The TV is off most nights (something I would have NEVER predicted).

    I love my boring life.

  2. I read and like those “Day in the Life” blog posts, but they always make me think about what I would say. My daily routine is a snooze fest. Probably why I post vacation pictures and cupcakes. Ha ha. But I guess the point is I like it the way it is. πŸ™‚

  3. I guess my life could be considered boring, but it feels like I’m always on the go and always doing something so I guess it depends on how one defines “boring.” I do the same things every day – routine and all – but I try to find enjoyment in the things I must do every day. I reguarly make meals for myself and my man, so I try to mix things up and fix new and interesting foods. I must go to work every day, which for me is a 45 minute commute one way, and so I sometimes take a different way home, just to enjoy a different view.

    So, while my days may be mundane and repetitive, I try to mix things up if at all possible to avoid boredome. And my hubby and I try to take 2 vacations a year; one short one and one long one so it seems like I’m always planning something and always have someplace new to look forward to. That helps when I feel the boredome start to set in.

    And if it gets real bad, I read. Reading takes me anywhere I choose to go with my reading selections. I can go back in time, forward in time, become a pirate or a witch, laugh, cry, solve crimes, whatever. Reading is a great escape for me.

    Patricia Rickrode
    w/a Jansen Schmidt

  4. LOL Stacy – you bring up an excellent point: “boring” is not the same as “bored!” Glad to hear your life’s a “good” boring too!

    Coleen, your vacation photos are awesome! And your posts always make me smile. πŸ˜€

    Patricia, sounds like some great ways to shake things up while keeping the good! And you know I’m with you when it comes to books. πŸ˜€

  5. I feel like I’m running do fast all of the time that boredom might be a healthy thing!! Oh to be able to just sit down & read a bookβ€”that’s my idea of Heaven : )

  6. I often worry that I don’t get out enough or take enough risks. I’m an introvert, so going out can be pretty exhausting, especially since (like you) I don’t drink much or find that fun. So yeah, sometimes my life feels kind of boring. When I get too restless, I make myself go out.

  7. What I would give for a little boredom these days! I’m trying to establish some kind of routine again in my life after making some changes over the last couple years.

    It sounds to me like you’ve found a great balance, Jennette, and things are going well.

    As for shaking things up, I’d rather do that in my characters’ lives these days, and have my own life be nice and predictable.

  8. I think some people might consider my life boring, but as was said above, I’m not bored! I like my life. My husband and I are, for the most part, living the life we want to live. We like things simple and quiet. We’re both introverts and book worms, which helps a lot too πŸ™‚

  9. Sometimes I think that we feel that our life is boring, but its far from that. We all have our daily routines. And that’s okay, even though it seems like it’s boring. But life happens. It blows up our everyday monotony and spices things up for us all. Like your brothers heart attack. And I’m truly sorry to hear about that. But it just proves we dont always know what will happen everyday. We are along for the ride. πŸ™‚

  10. I like my routines, and too many interruptions/outside demands/requests for help from others throws them off. I still wonder what happened to most of November, 2012. I remember trick-or-treaters coming to the door, then wrangling the cold, oiled turkey into an oven cooking bag, and poof! It was time to get ready for Christmas. I haven’t lost whole weeks lately, but Ill wake up on a Friday morning convinced the universe shorted me by one workweek day. Seriously, where does the time go?

    Jennette, your life is anything but boring. Your adventures in self-publishing are thrilling.

  11. I’ve started believing that a day where nothing bad happens is an absolutely wonderful day. I seek contentment now more than excitement, and as a result, I’m pretty happy. Liked this post!